Porn Internet Addictions Hypnotherapy

Addictions are behaviours or thoughts that can seem out of our control.  Most often it begins as a thought or feeling that stop no matter how hard we try. Addictions can be physical such as in the use of class A drugs, or others substances such as alcohol. Addictions can also be psychological and derive from thoughts that persist and won’t go away until the action associated with the psychological addiction has been done.

Typically, addictions often arise accidentally. No one deliberately chooses to become addicted to anything. Commonly what ever the addiction is, psychological or physical, the task or substance was once considered to be a solution to some other problem or life challenge.

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For example, cannabis may have helped someone relax during some stressful  episode in someone’s life. Although the stressful event has long since ended, the person still uses cannabis to relax and in fact can now not get through their day without a drink. This is an instance of when a solution to an earlier problem now becomes a problem itself.

The same is true of a pornographic addiction. Before the advent of the world wide web a pornography addiction may have involved magazines, videos and DVDs. Today, a porn addiction is more likely to involve the internet. So you might also consider that the internet has become an addiction too. The original issue with a porn addiction might have been loneliness, the break-up of a relationship, the inability to have a relationship at that time or other sense of need.

Using porn at that time may have provided a solution for sexual needs that weren’t being fulfilled. However now despite the fact that the person may be in a relationship, the urge or desire is still there to use pornography as a form of escape and sexual relief.

Typically, a porn addiction, as with any addiction, can lead to feelings of shame, guilt, self-loathing, low self esteem and confidence. Using the internet to access porn can lead to much time being wasted and also can get in the way of living. Jobs and tasks that need to be completed are left undone as the addict wastes more time satisfying the need for porn.

Once that need is satisfied a feeling of guilt sets in and a promise is made to never do this again but the promise is soon broken.

Hypnotherapy is a psychological intervention method that can help alleviate the root cause of the porn addict’s compulsive behaviour. Hypnosis helps restore a healthier sense of self and brings with it a great feeling of calmness and relaxation.

Hypnotherapy in London has helped many people to take charge of their porn addiction. Both men and women can suffer from a porn addiction although it is more prevalent in men. The same is true regardless of sexuality too as gay men and lesbian women may used pornography during some part of their adult life as a solution.

Whatever your sexuality, heterosexual, gay or lesbian, a porn addiction does not provide for a happy relationship with your partner, husband or wife. The sooner you resolve it, the faster you will feel happier and you will no longer have to keep deceiving your loved one.

Help for pornography addiction with hypnotherapy in London

Anxiety – Hypnotherapy Helps

Irrespective of its cause, anxiety is an unwanted and unpleasant sesnation. It affects our mood, motivation, confidence, concentration and sleep. Anxiety is at the root of most problems, issues and life challenges that a hypnotherapist is asked to provide assistance with.

Anxiety Causes 
Commonly, anxiety has as its cause a sense of dread or fear. This fear is about  losing something and that something might be finances, status, respect, relationship, job, home, or other loss. Predominantly it is the expectation of a future unwelcome event, whether it occurs or not, that brings the anxious feeling.

Take a typical employed worker who might hear gossip that there are going to be redundancies. He or she quickly realises that if they lose their  job their financial status will deteriorate and as a consequence frets, worries, and feels anxiety.

Anxiety – The body’s Reaction 
Anxiety tends to lead to higher hormonal production and in especially adrenaline. Adrenaline gets the body ready for action. The “fight or flight” syndrome kicks in. The muscles may tense, blood is drawn away from the digestive system (hence a loss of appetite is experienced) and the peripheral vision increases (hence the reduction in the ability to focus).

Numerous other examples like the above can be perceived as threats to someone’s lifestyle and their status quo. Actual and perceived threats can result in the same anxiety. More often than not perceived changes never materialise and the anxiety, worry and fear dissipate.

For some though, the anxiety stays. For this person It’s almost like they can’t trust themselves or their world enough to be able to relax. They expect something to go wrong sooner or later and so they begin to worry about what next event will give them anxiety.

Social Phobia and Anxiety 
Others learn to be anxious during certain experiences. Social phobia is the fear of being with people in certain situations. This anxiety might not be present if the social phobic is on familiar ground and only meeting one person. However anxiety can arise if they are invited to a new venue and they have to socialise with two or more people.

Anxiety from phobias are learnt responses and can be unlearned.

Anxiety – Hypnotherapy Helps
Hypnotherapy is particularly effective at helping to uncover the cause of a person’s anxiety. Then through the teaching of self-hypnosis, the previously anxious person can learn a relaxation technique to control, reduce and resolve the links to experiences, perceptions and anxiety.

Hypnotherapy for reduction in feelings of anxiety is one of the most popular requests any hypnotherapist received from clients.

Healthy Self Confidence – What is it?

Is it feeling superior to others?

Is it being stubborn and single minded?

Is it about being oblivious to other people?

Is it about be self-centred?

Well, it may be useful to start off with a dictionary type definition. The Oxford Reference Dictionary says that confidence is..

“firm trust, a feeling of certainty, sense of self-reliance, boldness”.

Regarding the expression ’self-confident’ the dictionary says…

“having confidence in one’s own ability”.

I think we all have our own idea about what self-confidence is and how it feels to us, which may or may not concur with the above.

Why do some people have more confidence than others?

Ahhh… this is the 64 million dollar question and actually it is a relatively easy one to answer. It really comes down to how a person perceives the world and in particular how they perceive themselves.

So, if someone describes themselves as being a person of low confidence, then they are more likely to retain that feeling of low confidence. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Their thoughts about themselves will influence their actions. Their actions will provide feedback to their perceptions of themselves.

A person who lacks confidence may not attempt to aim high in life for fear of failing. With not aiming high, they get mediocre or average results and this feeds back into their belief in their confidence. It can become a vicious circle of under achievement leading to a reinforcement of low confidence.

How does a person get low confidence?

Well, if you accept the fact that no one was born with low confidence then you must also accept that low self-confidence must be a learnt response and behaviour. What can be learnt can be un-learnt.

Some possible reasons for low confidence are:-

1) Past achievements have been belittled by someone of influence

2) A parent had low self-confidence and passed this way of being on

3) A mistake was made and the consequences (loss of job,

relationship, money, home) made them feel bad about

themselves

4) A repetitious bullying experience at home, school or place of work

5) Mental, physical or emotional bullying

6) Unhealthy psychological processing of events (always seeing the

negative side of everything)

7) Unrealistic goals that are never achieved

Living in the shadow of a parent, sibling, friend or colleague who

are consistently successful

9) Always being compared by a parent, sibling, friend or

colleague to another person

10) An experience of being a victim that has been accepted

permanently.

How do people who have high self-confidence keep it?
They do many things, consciously and unconsciously to keep their self-confidence in a healthy state. It is important to realise that although confident people may always appear that way, they too can also suffer doubts to their confidence.

A temporary period of low confidence can occur when some events do not go well for them. These could be:-

1) A personal relationship issue (separation, divorce etc)

2) Loss of a loved one through death

3) A demotion at work

4) Not getting that expected promotion at work

5) Loss of the home

6) A sudden shock (near fatal accident)

7) An illness

For many people, after the situation has become history and been dealt with, they will recover their self-confidence. In fact going through the experience of the troubling event can lead to stronger and resilient self confidence because they were able to handle it.

There is an expression which highlights this …

“What doesn’t kill us has the potential to make us stronger”

Is it possible for someone with low confidence to gain super self-confidence?
Absolutely, however a better aim would be for healthy self-confidence. You see that over-confidence may be just as bad as low confidence.

I am sure we have all met that person who says a lot but when it comes to delivery, they are generally unable to live up to their hype.

In fact an externally over-confident person may be someone who actually has low confidence. They just try and mask the low confidence by a display of over-confidence. You may recognise them as being that person who was the loudest in your peer group. They may have been the bragger who said they could do so much and yet there was little evidence to support this.

A confident person really does not need to prove anything to anyone, least of all themselves. They do their best. They aim to stretch themselves and are able to accept responsibility for success and failure.

Actually failure to a confident person is just feedback. It gives them more information enabling them to make a better decision

Another aspect to a person with healthy confidence is that they are themselves. They do not need to pretend to be something they are not. There is no need to brag or boast or talk-up their life. They are what you see and they can admit to being wrong.

I wonder what healthy self confidence means to you?

 

Life Between Lives Hypnotherapy

Past life regression is becoming more  and more popular.

People are interested in finding out who they may have been in a previous life. I guess many people hope to discover that they were someone famous such as Nelson or even Napoleon.

Whether or not your have had a past life of someone who as famous, it can be fascinating and intriguing to discover the details and life style of your past lives.

Some past life regression therapists have added an enhancement to their past life sessions. This is called “Life Between Lives” hypnotherapy.

During this type of past life regression much time is focussed on the lessons of each life and to the energy and knowledge gained in the area known as the life between life.

A life between lives hypnotherapist will have had training from Michael Newton.

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Alex Jeffreys

Marketing is something that we all have to do.

Even when we go after that job we are marketing ourselves. Putting together the best written application and then performing well at the interview.

Even when finding a personal partner for that loving relationship it could be said that we market ourselves. It might be in the form of wining, dining and dancing but none the less we employ strategies to win over our heart’s desire.

Of course any form of business require marketing too.

Nowadays marketing is split between online (web, internet) and offline (everything that is no online).

Alex Jeffreys is providing some effective information and strategies for marketing any business, product or service online.

As a student of Alex Jeffreys I am learning how to improve what I already know and add to my armoury of marketing tactics

Hypnotherapy in London Helps New Years Resolutions

Have you got a New Year’s resolution for 2009?

 

Most people will have some goal in mind that they would like to start on 1st January 2009. The idea of making a resolution is a positive one. Many people want to stop smoking, lose weight, become fitter or more confident.

Some want to push for that promotion, start a new business or seek out that special relationship. Others want to draw  line under the previous year which for them may have been a sad, unhappy or seemingly unlucky one.

Unforunately good intentions are not always enough to make a new year resolution become an easy habit that you make part of your normal routine. So more often than not the resolution is soon dropped or stopped.

Hypnotherapy can provide that extra support and help to ensure that whatever your new year goal is, you achieve it.

If you are ready to stop smoking, get control of your weight, become more confident and less stressed hypnotherapy in London can help you.

The london hypnosis practice provides a free consultation for most issues and is without any obligation.

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Hypnotherapists and Marketing

Many hypnotherapists may take a pessimistic view of these current economic times. There is no doubt that all of us are watching the pennies and thinking twice before buying those items we consider to be luxuries.

With this in mind you might be tempted to stop marketing your hypnotherapy services. If you were to do so, in my opinion,  this would be a mistake.

During this time known as the credit crunch it is even more important that we make our services known to the general public. As you know hypnotherapists are particularly effective at helping others to reduce their stress and anxiety and to to feel calmer about their situation.

We tend to handle life much better if we feel calmer and more relaxed and this is where as hypnotherapists our strength lies.

So during these hard financial times when television and newspaper headlines seem to be filled with “doom and gloom” our duty is to let others know that they do not have to suffer alone and there is effective support available.

If anything, as hypnotherapists we should be increasing our marketing and getting the word our there about how benefical hypnosis really is.

I am also still learning more about marketing and this is being aided by internet marketing expert Alex Jeffreys

Stopping Smoking Tomorrow Might Be Too Late

Most smokers believe that they will stop smoking at some point in time in the future. They accept that smoking is not a healthy long-term habit and may even be affecting them in the short-term too.

Smoking does seem to be a bit like playing russian roulette with your life. Some smokers survive into their eighties and nineties still smoking. Others contract breast cancer or throat cancer in their late twenties. So it is not a definite art to predicting the life expectancy of any individual smoker.

When someone decides that they have had enough of smoking, the next decision they need to make is “when?”. When will they stop? Typically a person will look at their life and future plans and attempt to find a period of time when they know they will feel less stressed and there are no events that might tempt them back into smoking.

Looking for possible challenges to sticking to a decision to stop smoking is clearly a sensible and logical strategy to employ. There is only one flaw is this strategy though. You see there will always be future events that might encourage a return to smoking.

Some people delay quitting smoking until after their own, a friend’s or relative’s wedding (stag and hen nights too). Then there is the christening of your god child. Don’t forget your best mate’s 30th burthday bash. What with a holiday and that golfing weekend and New Year almost upon us, it can seem better to wait until tomorrow rather than stopping today.

The world is full of smokers who wish they had quit yesterday and not tomorrow, They regret not stopping years earlier because they have been diagnosed with a smoking related illness. They now have to stop smoking because of their illness and also at the same time cope with the stress and anxiety that this diagnosis brings.

So if you are thinking that it is time to stop smoking but you have decided not to stop until after Christmas you need to think again. What you really need to do is to stop the excuses and stop the delay and take control of your life today.

If only you really new what being free of the threat of smoking related illness was like. If only you knew what it would be like not to smell good and be confident abourt your breath. If you knew how good you feel about yourself in being a non-smoker and the pride you can sense at your achievement. And how so many people who stop then feel so inspired and motivated that they make other life-affirming activities.

Tomorrow…. well who knows what tomorrow will bring. That’s why you need to make your decision today. Whatever method you choose to stop smoking is up to you. The only important matter is that you choose to stop now. If you need a little extra help and want to improve dramatically your chances of quitting successfully seek the help of a stop smoking hypnotherapist.

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How To Cope During the Credit Crunch?

The Credit Crunch and Financial Worries
During these unusual and disturbing financial times it can be easy to slip into panic mode. The world and its financial health is going through a crisis of confidence during what has been called the credit crunch. When confidence slips people become more wary and even withdraw.

You may be worried about the safety of your current job. If you lose your job or your earning levels reduce the next thing you may get anxious about is how are you going to pay your bills. How will you pay your mortgage or rent?

All of these concerns are very real and appropriate. We are seeing the largest and previously considered, safest of corporations including banks struggle to survive. Some banks have already gone to the wall.

Hype Drives Anxiety and Worries
All the hype you read in the newspapers and watch on television just adds to the consensus that we are in for a difficult period. The end of the recession, which most financial analysts agree we are already in, no matter which country you reside in, is at best a year away and at worst more.
It doesn’t look good and it is natural for anyone to become more stressed and anxious as further unexpected and unwanted shocks to the financial system unfold.

How To Cope With Financial Threats
So how is the ordinary man or woman in the street expected to cope with all this financial doom and gloom? After all if you allow yourself to get caught up in the financial hysteria you could find yourself frozen by anxiety. You may find yourself doing nothing when you should be taking action. Your sense of worry or fear may make you de-motivated and apathetic when you should be using your motivation to take action.

Stress and Anxiety – Motivator or Demotivator?
Stress or anxiety can be a motivator too though. There are some people who seem to thrive on stress. So we don’t all react in the same way. One thing is clear though, losing your way and feeling a victim will not help you. Facing up to reality and taking action will not only enable you to feel good it will also motivate you to know that you can make a difference.

Self Hypnosis for Relaxation and Motivation

One practice that can really help keep your stress and anxiety to a manageable level is the relaxation method known as self hypnosis. Self hypnosis in one form or another has been used for hundreds of years as a way of relaxing and reducing stress.

Powerful Uses for Self Hypnosis
In fact mothers-to-be, who want a natural child birth will often turn to self hypnosis so that they can enjoy a more relaxed and comfortable pregnancy and birth for all concerned. Some dentists teach their patients self hypnosis as an alternative to anaesthesia. A Manchester hospital teaches its patients who suffer fro m IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome) self hypnosis to help them reduce their stress and anxiety levels and control their symptoms.

Even high-flying executives of multi-national corporations have recognised the positive benefits of not only exercising the body at the local gym but relaxing the mind to enable them to function and handle highly challenging and ordinarily stressful events.

Relaxation Brings Clearer Thinking
A reduction in stress levels and anxiety can lead to clearer thinking. If we think more clearly we are more likely to feel motivated to take the action that we need to and cope with life’s ups and downs. Clear thinking can often lead to new ideas and solutions to previously considered insurmountable problems.

Drugs, Drink and Sex Are No Solution
Some people turn to drugs or drink or sex during stressful times as a form of escape. Unfortunately none of these tactics resolve anything and are actually more likely to lead to increased stress and worry.

Easy Self Hypnosis Brings Comfort, Peace and Inspiration
The basics of self hypnosis can be learnt in one 90 minute session. The session can be tailored to your individual needs too and is often supported by a self hypnosis recording to take away with you. The great news is that once you have learnt sefl hypnosis it is a skill for life. You can use it to help with so many future occasions such as in sport, public speaking, weight, alcohol, confidence, smoking and so much more.

The relaxation you enjoy through using self hypnosis can help you and inspire you to even greater successes than you have enjoyed before no matter what the financial climate may be. As you know, even in the gloomiest of times there are people who not only survive but they thrive. You can be one of them too. Self hypnosis can help you cope with financial worries.

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